Do We Ignore It?
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Whining is an attention-getting behavior. Whatever you do, you must not acknowledge this tone of voice, because it only reinforces her use of it. Even negative attention -- being sent to her room -- accomplishes her goal of having you listen to her.
Instead of demonstrating that this tone of voice is something that you will pay attention to, I'd suggest you ignore it completely. Once the whining starts, pretend like you don't hear her, and cannot understand her. You can either ignore her completely until she stops, or look at her blankly and say "What? I can't understand you, what did you say?" Don't acknowledge her until she uses a normal tone of voice, and then you can continue whatever discussion precipitated the whining. If you and your husband do this consistently, she'll learn that only reasonable tones work, and the whining should stop.