Know If There's Really A Problem Conceiving
Let's face it — we live in a quick-fix society. Pretty much anything we want is available 24/7. Anything, that is, except getting pregnant.
If you're young and in good health, pregnancy may happen easily. While women are most fertile in their late teens to late twenties, even older women may not have any issues conceiving right away. The reality is, pregnancy may not happen immediately but that doesn't automatically mean you're infertile.
So, should you reach for the ovulation predictor kit and basal body temperature thermometer from the start? Not necessarily.
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Don't take the fun out of conceiving
Think of the years you may have spent trying not to conceive. Now that you're thinking it's time for a baby, relax, have sex and have fun. If you have a regular menstrual cycle and know when you ovulate, sure, it may be easy to "cheat" a little and time intercourse to those fertile days. If you don't conceive immediately, it doesn't always mean you have to worry or that there is something wrong. There is a big difference between being impatient and being infertile.
Infertility is a disease.
Know when it may be infertility
Barbara Collura, executive director of RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, says, "Women who are trying to conceive need to take a quick Biology 101 class. Human reproduction is imperfect — it can take several months for a female and her partner to conceive naturally even when there are no medical issues. Make sure if you are trying to conceive that you are taking your prenatal vitamins, you are eating well, and taking care of yourself. But be proactive and talk to your doctor if you are under 35 and have been trying for 12 months, or the woman is over 35 and has been trying for six months. And don't forget, 30 percent of infertility is attributed to the male."
Tips from a mom who has been there
Nichole Beaudry says, "I was 35 when I began trying and had read enough to know that getting pregnant would likely be challenging for us. Fortunately, I had a proactive OB/GYN who ordered the necessary tests for us as soon as we hit the six-month mark."
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Beaudry has two children and also has secondary infertility. If you're wondering if you're being impatient or are infertile, Beaudry has two pieces of advice:
- "Educate yourself about your body and your fertility. The single best thing that you can read is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. My copy is dog-eared and worn from reading it and referring to it so many times."
- "Don't let anyone convince you to wait before seeking help if you feel ready. Every month counts. If you are ready to move on to the reproductive endoncrinologist, book your appointment and don't let anyone talk you out of it. Time is too precious to ignore your gut."