Today we've been looking at baby-parent bonding. So far we've talked about... How to bond with your baby How fast...

Today we've been looking at baby-parent bonding. So far we've talked about...

Now - what if you can't bond? Or feel like you can't. When should you be worried? There is no exact time line for bonding. You can bond fast or it can take a good long while. I've met parents who say they never really bonded with their baby until well after the first year. This doesn't mean they don't love their baby, they just don't feel totally connected. The bigger issue is how much the lack of bonding is bothering you. If it's making you feel badly then talk to your doctor. By your baby's first pediatrician appointment, if you don't feel like you're bonding at all, discuss this with the doctor. You can also talk to your own heath care provider. They may have some suggestions and more importantly, they can help spot problems like the baby blues or postpartum depression. A parenting class is one option if you don't feel like you're bonding. Sometimes it can help to be in a class with other new parents of newborns. You'll learn something new about your baby, and may meet other parents who are experiencing the same thing. Major danger signs: If you know you aren't taking care of your baby properly - i.e not feeding her, changing her, or doing other basic care tasks, you may not be bonding, you are not being responsible, your baby may be harmed, and you really need to talk with someone. Call your doctor asap, or call on some family and friends who can help you out. Some research has shown that the bigger your support system, the easier it may be to bond with your baby. If you feel like you want to harm your baby or yourself, call on a friend / mother / your partner right away to take care of your baby, and you call the doctor. This is most likely postpartum depression, and can cause you not to bond. The good news is that you can get help for postpartum depression.

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