Cassie - A complicated twin pregnancy

A Happy Time Turned Sad When One Twin Died

When Kim became pregnant immediately after her father-in-law passed away, it was a happy, but sad time. For some reason, Kim had a feeling that something would go wrong -- And it did. Kim gave birth to twins, and while one survived, the other passed away less than two days later. Read her birth story here.

by Kim

Mom's story
In January 1999, after losing my father-in-law, we found out we were finally pregnant. We all joked saying it will probably be twins. Dad will get the last say in. It was sad, but happy time.

The pregnancy had many complications. And I knew that something bad was going to happen. In April, we had an unscheduled sonogram and found out we were having twins. We were all excited. Buying things in twos was great. And our four other children couldn't wait. But one thing bothered me, the doctor said not to worry, but the sonogram noticed that they were already two different sizes.

I went in every week. NSTs were normal routine for me. I was in false labor on a regular basis. Baby B was not doing well and the only thing they could tell me was the longer they stay in the better they hope they will be. It finally got to the point were they sent me to the hospital to see a specialist. And he told me not to worry. But I did. We did. I told my doctor something was wrong.

I was to go home and relax and not to worry. On August 20, 1999 I went into labor. We drove to the hospital. And ten minutes later Cassie, twin A was born. They rushed her off to the NICU. I only got to glance at her. The doctor tried for several minutes to coax Bobbi, twin B down. She was in breech position. They then rushed me down the hall for a C-Section, but it was too late. She was delivered in the hall. Feet first. The nurses were stunned. They grabbed her and had to rush her NICU.

It was several hours before we heard anything. Bobbi had two blood transfusions. Cassie was having blood thinned because she had to much. Twin-to-twin transfusion they said. Sad to say that after one day, seven hours and ten minutes, Bobbi died. Her body couldn't take it anymore. It was too hard, even with the machines doing the work for her.

I can honestly say - even after a year - that it is still not easy. Knowing they were identical. Only having one and not two. I still have double the stuff. I could not bury it with her. I have a lot of regrets, but I got to hold her as she passed. I will miss her.