Meet Kymberli, a middle-school teacher from Georgia who kept this diary of her first pregnancy -- with twins!
Kymberli

Hello everyone! This is Frank, Kym's dear hubby, or as you ePregnancy people like to call us, Kym's DH. Kym is a bit "brain fried" as she put it to me, so I am doing a journal entry this week. Actually, I was forced to do it against my will, which brings me to my topic. Kym has been telling me about all of you pregnant ladies out there whose DH's are not as sensitive to meeting all of your pregnant needs. Guys, if you are out there, listen to what I have to say. If I sound like I am being mushy or soft, as we men tend to say, let me warn you now, that I am not. By no means am I trying to get on anyone's case, either, because I don't know any of you and I am certainly not trying to judge any of you DH's out there. I'm just trying to let you know that you need to understand how your wife feels. You know, for a while before Kym and I got pregnant, I really wasn't ready for kids yet. Not that I didn't want kids, just not yet. I went through years of Kym pouting and being in bad moods everytime she saw or heard of one of her students or friends being pregnant, or everytime she watched "A Baby Story." I felt that we were both still young in our marriage and in our lives. There were still things we hadn't done yet as a couple without the responsibility of kids. I never understood why she felt so down when it came to having children. Don't get me wrong; she wasn't down all the time, just when she heard or saw things about babies.

When Kym's younger sister got pregnant, that was all she wrote; I finally saw and understood her need for motherhood. I got my sperm count checked out, because I kind of always thought that I was the problem, if you know what I mean. It wasn't me. So after going to see a specialist, Kym got on fertility drugs, and after two months of taking them, BAM! -- TWINS! A boy, Jaiden, and a girl, Kyra. As you all know, Kym is about six months pregnant now, and I could not be happier. I would do anything for my kids, and they aren't even here yet.

To the women who are reading this journal, I know you understand what I am talking about, and I'm sure there are some DH's out there who feel like me as well. But to those soon-to-be-daddies out there who want to know the point to my journal, if what I am about to say applies to you, I hope you take it to heart. For those of you to which it doesn't apply, much props to you. If you didn't have go to a specialist to get pregnant, you just baby danced and BAM, she's pregnant, or it wasn't a planned pregnancy, don't take it out on your wife or girlfriend by not meeting her needs during her pregnancy. If she needs a back rub, a foot rub, a full-body massage, or that craving in the middle of the night that's not located in the kitchen, we as husbands or significant others should meet every need she has. Kym doesn't have to worry about any of those things because I am there for her 24/7, whatever she needs. Does it make me "less of a man," "soft," "that she has me trained," or the word most men fear, "whipped?" I think not. I am just being sensitive, and if anything, that makes me more of a man, because I want to take care of the woman and kids that I love more than life itself. Besides, it's the least you can do for her. After all, she's the one with all the pain of carrying your child for nine months, and let's not forget labor. By no means are my thoughts meant to offend anyone who reads this journal.



To the women who are reading this journal, I know you understand what I am talking about, and I'm sure there are some DH's out there who feel like me as well. But to those soon-to-be-daddies out there who want to know the point to my journal, if what I am about to say applies to you, I hope you take it to heart. For those of you to which it doesn't apply, much props to you. If you didn't have go to a specialist to get pregnant, you just baby danced and BAM, she's pregnant, or it wasn't a planned pregnancy, don't take it out on your wife or girlfriend by not meeting her needs during her pregnancy. If she needs a back rub, a foot rub, a full-body massage, or that craving in the middle of the night that's not located in the kitchen, we as husbands or significant others should meet every need she has. Kym doesn't have to worry about any of those things because I am there for her 24/7, whatever she needs. Does it make me "less of a man," "soft," "that she has me trained," or the word most men fear, "whipped?" I think not. I am just being sensitive, and if anything, that makes me more of a man, because I want to take care of the woman and kids that I love more than life itself. Besides, it's the least you can do for her. After all, she's the one with all the pain of carrying your child for nine months, and let's not forget labor. By no means are my thoughts meant to offend anyone who reads this journal.

Much love and good luck to all you soon-to-be-mommies and soon-to-be-daddies, especially to all you soon-to-be-daddies.

FrankPregnancyAndBaby.com


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