Everyone has advice and opinions about you, your family, and your new baby. You can listen to some of it,...
Everyone has advice and opinions about you, your family, and your new baby. You can listen to some of it, but just listen carefully and selectively. Here are three things you may hear that are lies:  Once you lose the baby weight, you'll look as great as ever: For most mamas this translates into, I'll look the same as I did before the pregnancy. Nope, you won't. You may lose all the weight, you may look good, but you will look and feel different. Pregnancy and childbirth does crazy things to your body. Your weight may be redistrubuted. Your shoe size may permanently change, and your hair might look and feel different. Your metabolism and periods can change too. It's not a total downer, you can look and feel great after birth, but you'll never be exactly the same. A baby will only strengthen our love: Well, if you and your partner had issues before, a baby sure won't help things. A baby adds stress; lots of it. A baby can test even the strongest of relationships. This is not to say you won't love and be with your partner forever, but babies don't tend to strengthen relationships - just change them up. You'll learn new ways to connect and depend on your partner. Bonding, breastfeeding, holding, diaper changes, (really insert any parenting task) comes naturally: For me, some parenting tasks came very naturally, others, like breastfeeding, took some work. I also had a complicated labor and birth, and while I adored Cedar, and we did bond quickly, I thought it was tough coming out of such a hard time. Whenever anyone says "Blank comes naturally" know that for you it might not, and that's perfectly ok. There's a parenting learning curve and you will catch on, just maybe not today.

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