I've known mamas who say they feel like it's their fault that their baby was born early. My son was...
I've known mamas who say they feel like it's their fault that their baby was born early. My son was born on his due date, so I can't totally relate to mamas who feel guilty over their baby being born premature. However, I can relate to the guilty feelings mamas get over things they can't totally control - like baby gender. In the case of a premature baby, choices you make may have, in fact, caused your baby to be born early - smoking and poor diet are two things you can control that can cause a baby to be born early. That said, after the fact, what's reality is that feeling guilty won't change the situation. You can feel guilty until the cows come home, but the fact is that your preemie baby needs a strong support system and you feeling guilty won't accomplish this. Instead of feeling badly, address your feelings head-on. Acknowledge that you could have made better choices or realize that even though you took super good care of yourself that your baby was going to come early no matter what. Some babies are simply early. Get support from your health care provider and your baby's doctor - learn all you can about premature babies and how to best provide for them. Offer your baby love and support which will help him thrive more than your guilt will. You can't change the past but you can absolutely work on creating a positive future. To learn more about preterm birth and preemies read:

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