The Loss Of A Baby May Also Mean The End Of Your Relationship - Learn How To Decrease The Risk.
New research has come to light that shows that the loss of a baby does increase the risk that a...
New research has come to light that shows that the loss of a baby does increase the risk that a couple will split. Research hailing from the University of Michigan Medical School looked at nationwide U.S. data related to families and tracked the outcome of pregnancies and the affects on parents. The data related that couples who experience a miscarriage are 22% more likely to split up than couples who gave birth to a live baby. miscarriage were 22% more likely to break up than couples whose pregnancies resulted in the birth of a child. This increased risk sticks around for about three years after the death of a baby via miscarriage. Couples who experienced a stillbirth faced harsher odds, with 40% of couples breaking up after the fact and the risk for breaking up stays with that couple for nine full years. This not only shows how stressful the death of a child is but how that stress is very persistent. What can help families and couples cope: The loss of a baby is insanely difficult I'm sure, but having not gone through it, I'm not qualified to say I know what these parents are going through, although I can imagine. That said, research does show that some very specific things can possible help salvage a relationship after the loss of a baby. If you lose a child and want to stay with your partner the following may be helpful...
- Keeping records and making the baby real - knowing that your baby's life, however short, was significant can help. Naming your baby, holding him, taking pictures or a footprint to keep and discussing your baby as a real person is useful because it doesn't discount your experience.
- Have an actual blessings ceremony or funeral to honor your baby and your loss.
- Know that the grieving process can take time. Don't expect the pain to stop sooner just because your baby's life was short. For example, while some people may feel it's ok to grieve the loss of someone you've known forever (say your grandma) people aren't so understanding about the loss of a baby. It can be just as long a grief process.
- You may find it helps to talk about the situation. Join a baby loss group or talk to a counselor.
- Blaming is never useful. In many cases researchers are still unsure about what causes miscarriage and stillbirth. Making up pretend blaming games doesn't help. A loss is a loss no matter how it happened. Accept the loss and deal with it, but blaming one parent or the other will lead to more problems.