According to a recent advice based press release from Raleigh family lawyer Charles R. Ullman, "Divorced parents shouldn’t let confusion...
According to a recent advice based press release from Raleigh family lawyer Charles R. Ullman, "Divorced parents shouldn’t let confusion and disputes about visitation spoil the upcoming holidays with their children." Good advice. Having been a single mama, I can say for sure that a well-planned parenting plan can help ease divorce or separation issues related to your kids. If you're not together with your child's dad, or mom as the case may be, it's wise to plan ahead so that the holiday season, and year-round activities are more enjoyable and less stressful. Ullman is the founding partner of the Raleigh family law firm of Charles R. Ullman & Associates and represents clients in divorce and child custody matters. Ullman says...
When establishing a holiday visitation schedule, parents should agree on key details, such as when the holiday starts and ends and how the parenting time will be shared, in order to avoid any misunderstanding that triggers a full-blown argument."
Other things that can, in my own experience, help include the following: Possibly celebrate the holidays together. This doesn't work for all families of course, but if it works for your family it can be useful. For example, my son stays the night with me on Christmas eve, then my son's dad comes over on Christmas day and we all hang out, then my son goes home with his dad that evening. It does work for us, and it's nice for my son who then doesn't need to choose between parents. If there's transport involved divide it as equally as possible. It's hyper annoying to be the only parent driving your child around. Transport should be split to ease stress. See far off family at other times. Visiting relatives in other states works okay if you're a two parent family, but this can bite for parents who are divorced or separated. If one of you takes your child off on a long trip during the holidays it means the other parent has no time, which really isn't all that fair to the child or parent. Try to plan longer trips away during another time of the year. Resources:

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