Listen up parents, a new study shows that praise may actually harm, not help your child. According to a piece,...
Listen up parents, a new study shows that praise may actually harm, not help your child. According to a piece, How Not to Talk to Your Kids, published in New York Magazine, about 85% of American parents think it’s important to tell kids that they’re smart. However, this may not be as helpful as most parents think. A growing body of research, along with a newer New York public-school system study note that telling kids that they're smart may be causing many kids to under-perform. Psychologist Carol Dweck and her research team at Columbia have been studying the effect of praise on students attending New York schools. They ran tests on actual kids, telling some how "smart" they were and telling others that they were putting fourth great "effort." Then the team gave kids the choice of two tests, one easy, one hard. The result - the kids who were told they were smart tended to choose the easy test, choosing simple over pushing themselves to new heights. Why these results? Dweck notes that praising kids for being smart may freak them out, making them think, "Now I can't look bad or risk making a mistake." We already know that how you talk to your child and the words you choose can seriously make a negative or positive difference, and this study is just another interesting piece of the puzzle. It's sure something to consider as your baby learns to talk and as you start having longer conversations with him. Read the entire piece: How Not to Talk to Your Kids

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