Equally shared parenting isn't exactly a new concept, just a hard-to-reach concept. By hard to reach, I mean that most...
Equally shared parenting isn't exactly a new concept, just a hard-to-reach concept. By hard to reach, I mean that most current research shows that women still take on most of the housework and child-rearing tasks, even when both parents work an equal amount of hours outside of the home. Not surprisingly, women like men who "help out" more than men who don't. However, equal parenting is more than simply one parent doing most of the work and the other "helping out." Marc and Amy Vachon, two major proponents of shared parenting, state that equally shared parenting is, "The purposeful practice of two parents sharing equally in the domains of childraising, housework, breadwinning, and time for self." I know most women will say that equal parenting is easier said than done. Trust me, I get it. I've never lived with a guy who gets what it means to parent or run a household equally. Partially it's been my fault. For example, in the video below, Amy points out that women need to let go of that whole, "I can do it best" complex. I did this with my son's dad often - i.e. the idea that I could do stuff concerning our son better than he could. Another interesting point in the video below is that both parents cut down on their work-time in order to be better overall parents and partners. I 100% agree with this tactic. If you can swing it, it's worth it to have a little less income in exchange for more family time. For example, can you cancel cable, eat out less, buy fewer clothes? Will these steps allow you to work less, but feel more relaxed because you have more time? Check out the video below. + Equally Shared Parenting + Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents + When Mom and Dad Share It All

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