How To Parent A Shy Child

There is an excellent article over at Breezy Mama called Why You May Be Doing More Harm Than Good For...
There is an excellent article over at Breezy Mama called Why You May Be Doing More Harm Than Good For Your Shy Child. If you have a shy little one, this is well worth a read. Especially if you have no clue how to handle the situation. I've talked about how I've been in this boat before here at P&B. I was a born extrovert - super outgoing and chatty with everyone. When my extremely shy son Cedar came along, I was at a loss. I had no idea how to deal with him being so closed off and quiet. Worse though, was how other people responded to him. People don't get shy kids. I can't tell if others are simply confused about how to act around a shy child or if they think it's a negative trait, but seriously, I got some major grief from folks during Cedar's early years. I had the distinct feeling that people thought I did something wrong that made him shy. I was actually told by more than one person that maybe if I took the kid out once in a while he wouldn't be so shy. Right... like I had him locked in a box at home or something. My son was around people all the time, yet, he was still shy. That's just him. He's always been slow to warm to new people, and quieter than other kids, and I suspect he may always be. However, as he's grown I've learned that there's nothing wrong with this, he's just who he is. Just like I was outgoing and my own person, Cedar is his own person, which is 100% okay. In any case, I wish I'd had this article when Cedar was younger. A lot of the advice would have saved me many trial and error approaches to parenting a shy kid. I didn't agree with all the advice, but most of it was spot on, especially the part about how to deal with other adults. That hit home, because with a shy child who won't immediately respond when spoken to, people always seem to assume that you simply forgot to teach them manners, which is so not true. People will also pester a shy child over and over, assuming, I guess, that if you bug a kid enough he magically won't be shy anymore (wrong). If you have a shy child, you should take a look. Read the whole article: Why You May Be Doing More Harm Than Good For Your Shy Child

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